Life of Letter 10
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Goodbye 2011…Happy New Year!
Well here we are…another year is going by. 2011 was kind of a hangover year for me. Still stuck in the shock of dealing with the loss of my son but we closed out the year with the excitement of Kami’s pregnancy with our second son, Ian. It has been a great second half of the year watching him grow on an ultrasound screen and letting myself hope and dream of sharing life with him come spring time. It has taken me a lot to get my head back around to the positive but I think I am there. Many thanks to wonderful friends for the support and encouragement along the way!
So in 2011 I also took a leap into a new career. Not a vastly different area from where I was for the previous 9 years and 11 months, but something new. I say vastly different mainly because it is still in the realm of marketing but it certainly is a different world than associations. I started at Pineapple Advertising a year ago in April and it has been somewhat of a whirlwind learning the style of a new company and figuring out where I fit in and how I can use my talents for this company. I still have my hands in some aspects of the association so I am not completely removed.
Until we found out Kami was pregnant again that was pretty much the highlight of our year. Kami is still happy in her nursing career, the pool was a nice addition to our summer and we remain on the hunt for a great deal on travel to a new beach (while that will certainly get more difficult, it will still be there). 2011 was the year Kami and I celebrated 10 years of marriage…she won the gift war when she surprised me with tickets to the Major League Baseball All-Star game in Phoenix. We had a wonderful time (thanks Mary!) and shortly after returning we learned of our greatest surprise, Ian. Of course at that time we didn’t know it was another boy, but that didn’t matter.
Now we just wait for the next week so we can get another glimpse of our son on that black and white screen to see him move, his heart beat and see how much he has grown. I know…seems like kind of a boring year. Well I hope that 2012 will more exciting and laughter filled than either of us can imagine.
So that is enough about that…hope that everyone has a great New Year celebration. Be safe and make the most of everyday in 2012!
Happy Anniversary!
10 years ago today I married my best friend and the love of my life. I kid around a lot about how LONG we have been married and that it feels like forever. The truth is that the last 10 years have flown by and I can remember almost every moment we have spent together as husband and wife (although I am sure it is a different version than my wife’s). Kami and I have known each other for most of our lives…seriously, we knew each other in kindergarten. We have always been good friends and have been through a lot of things in our lives together.
As many of you know our tenth year of marriage has not been an easy one for us. The loss of our son was the most difficult thing either of us has had to deal with and we are certainly still dealing with it. This is something that thankfully brought us even closer together (which I didn’t even know was possible). We have cried together, held each other and supported each other as we both deal with the emotions in our own ways. I want to thank my wife for being so strong and for continuing to show strength as we move forward with our lives together.
Maybe it is because we have known each other for so long on top of being married for a decade but nothing really seems different from the day of our wedding. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat! Might even have a longer wedding and reception the next go around…we may have set a wedding land-speed record!
I know that the next 10 years will be as great or greater than the previous 10 because of the woman I am married to. Thanks Kami for an amazing 10 years and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.
I Love you.
Anniversary
It is the season for anniversaries! Yes, I missed my own parents 40th anniversary by a day because for some strange reason I ALWAYS enter it wrong on my calendars! (Sorry Mom & Dad!)
Yesterday was my brother and his wife’s anniversary and mine and my wife’s 10th anniversary is coming up toward the end of the month. As I was upset with myself for completely lapsing on my parents 40th wedding anniversary I started to think about some things that I have really taken for granted over the years. Number one on the list is that my parents have been married for 40 years!
As a kid my brother and I did not know how lucky we were to have parents that stuck together and worked at their relationship enough to keep it going not only for them but for us. Of course there are tough times, we didn’t see them but after being married for nearly 10 years myself I know they were there. Frankly if you can be married to someone for 40 years and not have some arguments and disagreements then there is something creepy going on…seriously…it would creep me out.
To step back and think about the wonderful example on marriage that we had growing up I am so thankful to have that moving into my 11th year of marriage. I was able to see how as parents decisions were made, conflict was dealt with and fun was had by most everyone for an extended period. Not just hit or miss happiness…I mean honest, long-term happiness. As kids we never knew about financial issues, theoretical differences, or even my parents just getting tired of being around each other. We were protected from anything such as that and it was important. We were always a family…always on the same side and always working together to keep the streak of happiness going.
I understand now. Being older and in my own marriage I understand that you are not trying to win anything. You are trying to keep each other as happy as possible for as long as possible…that is the goal. It isn’t to be right or win the arguments, those don’t mean anything.
So if you are celebrating your anniversary this month, CONGRATULATIONS! And here’s a toast (of coffee, it’s early!) to your many more years of continued happiness!
